There’s nothing like cozying it up in your favorite sweater in this unpredictable weather. Summer is really over and I, for one, am having a hard time coping. I just love basking in the sun and taking in all the chill vibes the world has to offer. I am definitely already missing the Summer season. You know what they say, all good things come to an end, but there’s always something better around the corner.
What do we really know about change exactly? For one thing, It happens to everyone on a daily basis. There are things that you can actually choose to change but there are also things that naturally change. There are a lot of people who don’t know how to deal with change—I am not one of those people. Well, of course, I used to be one of those people who would try to avoid change no matter what but even that has changed. I don’t know when. I don’t know how. I don’t know why. I just know that, at some point, I developed a certain immunity to change.
I used to experience so much anxiety because I was so consumed by all the things that I couldn’t control. One day, all of that just ended. That’s when I finally accepted that change is the only constant thing in this world. Once I accepted this fact of life, experiences just bounced off me and left me unfazed. A lot of people saw this as me turning into this cold-hearted person but that’s actually the complete opposite of who I am. I react to things differently because I take in things in my own way. It’s as simple as that.
One of the most powerful triggers of this acceptance of change is loss. There is nothing harder to recover from than the loss of something or someone very valuable to you. I’ve learned to just let things play out and if it works out in your favor then that’s awesome but if it doesn’t then move on to the next opportunity because, eventually, something will work out for you.
Take relationships, for example. I’ve never done the whole 3-month rule thing. Where did that come from anyway and what is the basis for this exactly? Well, no one really knows, people just blindly follow it for some reason.
At the end of my first ever serious relationship, I started dating again after a week. That’s right, just one week. Why? because I didn’t see the point of taking forever to move on from something that’s already over. I mean, seriously, how much more time are you willing to put into something that’s already done (I’m not a fan of wasting my time so I don’t do that) You had a relationship, it was awesome, but now it’s over. Now all that’s left to do is to appreciate what you had, accept that it just didn’t work out in the end, and learn from it. You’d think that this way of dealing with things would turn me into a bitter person but it didn’t. Every time I look back at my past relationships, I can’t help but smile because I know that, at some point, that person made me very happy—now isn’t that what matters the most?
I now find comfort in change. It’s actually comforting to know that this pain I am feeling will, eventually, subside or this happiness I am feeling will, eventually, turn into something even better. I’ve reached this point wherein I am excited for things to change, for the seasons to play out and for new opportunities to surface. The best part is, I have the power to change what I choose to change and so do you.
BEYOND THE BEACH Bikini | Vintage Sweater
Photography by Matthew Azada